Books for adopters

Books for adopters

The table below contains a recommended reading list for adopters. Books are also available from all good stockists so please do support your local bookstore or library.




Everyday Parenting with Security and Love: Using PACE to Provide Foundations for Attachment

Kim Golding

A practical guide for parents to help them develop an attitude of PACE.

First Steps in Parenting the Child who Hurts: Tiddlers and Toddlers Second Edition

Caroline Archer

A really easy to access book that describes the mind of a child with developmental trauma. Archer is an adoptive parent herself and also a consultant in adoption.

Next Steps in Parenting the Child Who Hurts: Tykes and Teens

Caroline Archer

A very readable book which is really informative and full of ideas of responses to specific difficulties such as lying, stealing and toileting.

Reparenting the Child Who Hurts: A Guide to Healing Developmental Trauma and Attachments

Caroline Archer and Christine Gordon

This book looks at brain development in children with developmental trauma. It is full of case examples and has some useful handouts at the back for parents.

Attachment in Common Sense and Doodles: A Practical Guide

Miriam Silver

A book full of practical ideas to help you manage your child. Silver writes in a way that makes sense and she uses diagrams to help you understand attachment theory and subsequent behaviour patterns.

The Body Keeps the Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma

Van Der Kolk

This book explains how the brain is affected by trauma and stress in children and adults. It is quite heavy going but a fascinating read and one of the best books that explains the impact of trauma on the brain.

Teenagers and Attachment: Helping Adolescents Engage with Life and Learning

Daniel Hughes and others

Contributed to by several authors. This book looks at specifically attachment difficulties in adolescents at home and school.

Attachment-Focused Family Therapy Workbook

Daniel Hughes

This book is aimed more at professionals but is a helpful read for any parents who are undergoing DDP.

The Neurobiology of Attachment-Focused Therapy: Enhancing Connection & Trust in the Treatment of Children & Adolescents

Jonathan Baylin and Daniel Hughes

This book focuses solely on the impact of developmental trauma in children. It has a lot of case examples to help illustrate their points. It uses a lot of jargon but books about the brain usually do.

Building the Bonds of Attachment: Awakening Love in Deeply Traumatized Children

Daniel Hughes

First published in 1998, this book is now in its second edition. It is quite heavy going but looks at the mind of a child with attachment difficulties and the stresses of parenting.